20 minutes after goodbye

Grace and I are still standing in the mission lobby late at night, with me wondering what types of conversations are the most meaningful. Girls love to talk to each other about their boy situations (in fact, that happens on most of our runs), but is that frivolous? Should we be talking about “more important things” than boys? But what does “more important” mean? What “should” we be talking about? And what are the point of conversations anyway? Are they only to get closer to the people one is talking to, or is the goal to have an epiphany about life or a topic? What is the “best” conversation? It feels like for every type, there could be a criticism. About boys? Too frivolous. About class? Too nerdy. About the future? Too practical. About politics? Too distant from life (or not). Maybe every type has its own value.

The finish line or the journey

This isn’t a unique struggle, the struggle between enjoying the moment and working towards a goal. Two examples from my life of late:

  • I wanted to climb as many of the 14ers (mountains above 14,000 feet) in Colorado. But in my obsession to climb all of them, did I stop enjoying each hike for its own beauty?
  • There are so many books on my to-read list. When reading books is something to check off a to-do list, could it interfere with my love of reading?

Creating New Precedents

A thought that came up while reading about civil rights cases for racial justice as well as gender equality: Counterintuitively, many landmark cases are brought by the historically advantaged portion of the population. Why is this the case?

  • Plessy v. Ferguson was brought by a man who looked completely white (and was only black legally)
  • Craig v. Boren, (which was brought about the fact that women could buy beer at 18, and men had to wait until 21), was a landmark gender equality case argued by RBG

It seems as though sometimes the advantaged part of the population needs to believe that they lose out as a result of unequal treatment for the laws to change, it isn’t enough for the historical “minority” to be hurting.

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